Assumptions

I have been meeting with my therapist for about 3 weeks now. Today was the last "diagnostic interview" day -- where she learns about my background, etc. We spent the last 15 minutes or so doing actual talk therapy.

I won't get into the sordid details, but at one point she asked me if I had made an assumption about something Diego wanted. And you know what, I had. I hadn't asked him about it, I had just assumed that because I would have appreciated a certain action, he would have appreciated the same action.

But, her question got me thinking -- just because I think one way, it's entirely possible that Diego thinks a completely different way. That sounds so simple, but it's pretty eye-opening me for me. I mean, I know that we have different ways of thinking about some things. We have differening problems. But, there are certain things that I just assume.

And that's a problem. We don't communicate very well, Diego and I, and I think we both make assumptions. So, next week, I'm going to try to talk about my (our) communication problems.